An unplanned pregnancy can be a scary thing for anyone. I think the most important thing to remember is that you’re not alone. Many pregnancies are unplanned (let’s be honest, many women young and old get pregnant when they weren’t planning to) and whatever you decide to do, there are people and resources to help you. My site has a lot of information, support, and referrals in Massachusetts that you may need to help you make an informed decision about what to do next.
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, you have choices to make and issues you may want to think about. You can:
- Choose to have the baby and parent your child
- Choose to have the baby and make an adoption plan
- Choose to have an abortion to end the pregnancy
If you are having a hard time deciding what to do, try talking to someone you trust, like your parents, your doctor, a close friend, or a family member. Basically, talking with an adult you trust can be a big help. It might help to go to your doctor who knows about you and your health issues and can give you the facts about your options without judging or lecturing you. Family planning clinics also have all the information you need. It may sound scary to go to a clinic, but the people who work there (like my aunt) are usually very nice and will treat you with respect. Like the counselors on the helpline, they won’t judge you or lecture you.
You may need to give your doctor or clinic your name or other information, but if you live in Massachusetts, all of your information will be strictly confidential and they will never tell anyone your business, unless you give them permission to do so (usually in writing). It’s actually illegal for them to disclose your information without your permission, even to your parents. What’s also cool is that if you DO want help talking to your parents about your decision, they will totally help you with that too.If you need any additional information or want to talk with someone who will answer questions or just listen, please call the MA Sexual Health Helpline at (877) MA-SEX-ED or (877) 627-3933. The counselors will help without judging or lecturing and all of the information you tell them will stay strictly confidential; in fact, the counselors will never even ask for your name.